KINGDOM RELATIONSHIPS !!!

Kingdom Relationship is God kind of Relationship between Opposite Sex. It’s A Relationship that Has God’s Standards as it’s guide. A Relationship that never Dishonours God, Defile The Marriage Bed nor Satisfy it’s own pleasure at the Detriment of What God Wants.

Many Of You Think We don’t Have Romantic People in The Kingdom . Or you see Christianity and Everything about it as Boring. We are not boring people o… We only Honour God and Do the Right Things at the Right time. Infact We have the best set of Cute and Romantic people….

You can not Eat your cake and have it. In this kingdom we Focus on building our relationship with God first. Cause Jesus is our first love . then he will give us the ability to Love our Partners. Without Having an Intimate Relationship with God First, you can never make a good partner in a Relationship. And if you’re Yet to build an Intimate Relationship with God and you’re already in a Relationship, Sister/Brother you’re Wrong o. Love God first.

In This Kingdom, The First thing we Check is not APPEARANCE as the World do but SPIRITUALITY
. Infact Appearance is not even the second Thing we consider but EMOTIONS. Appearance comes last. The right order is (Spirit, Soul & Body) Yes oo… It’s very important o. That Fire is Very Necessary o… Leave it for us o. We know the consequences of getting married to a Fireless Person o and we wouldn’t like to take that Risk .

In this Kingdom We don’t Consider LOVE before PURPOSE, cause LOVE can always grow as time goes on. The first question we ask is “Have this Person Discovered His/Her Kingdom Purpose?” “Does this person’s Purpose have the same Direction as Mine?” Never be in a relationship with anyone yet to Discover their Purpose. It’s wrong, two can never Walk together unless they agree. And a Woman is supposed to be a Help meet. Someone that Would assist you in life, Purpose is not exempted. Your partner’s Purpose must complement yours.

In This Kingdom We Don’t Say YES to an UNBELIEVER. Because the Word says we should not be unequally yoked with Unbelievers. It’s a Risk to get to be in a Relationship with one not to talk of getting married to one. Light and darkness has nothing in common.
We Don’t Even say Yes to Those that are not genuinely Born again. They are called NOMINAL Christians. They are just like Unbelievers. They don’t have the Holy Spirit in them so they can’t Honour God in That Relationship.

Don’t say you can’t know them, the Bible says by their fruits we shall know them. Some can actually be pretending but that’s why you need to have the Spirit of DISCERNMENT.
In this Kingdom We must Have a SKILL or CAREER that we are earning from already before saying YES to Anyone for a Relationship. Yes we make sure we are independent at least. So that we can Support the Family. Money must not necessarily come in from one Pocket always, what if something happens to their source of Income When you get married? Think about it.

In this Kingdom Relationships, we set boundaries. Both Emotional and physical boundaries because we know our Bodies are the Temple of the Holy Spirit. We don’t Defile the Marriage Bed when the time is not due. We Also know that Sexual immoralities are Sin against Our own bodies and God too.

In This Kingdom We Avoid all forms of Body contact cause we know they won’t help us. We Avoid KISSING cause while doing it we are not glorifying God neither is our Hearts Glorifying God and it can lead to Sex. In the Kingdom we avoid Every form of pleasure that would make Us Disobey God.

In This Kingdom Ladies are not MONEY CONSCIOUS. They don’t insist their Partners must Take them for shopping or change their Wardrobes Monthly, Give them money for Human Hairs or get them Phones and other Expensive things. They are contented with what they have and allow their Partners get them things they can afford and wish to buy themselves. Or until they are asked to make a Request, Yet they are still considerate.

In this Kingdom the guys do not Request for SEX before marriage. And if Eventually they are Tempted to Ask, they don’t get angry when their Request is turned down. They treat their Partners as their own Sisters. They Apologise for their actions and still love them genuinely afterwards.
In This Kingdom Partners that are not yet married Don’t do SLEEP OVERS. Cause it’s wrong. They don’t meet in lonely and tempting Environments cause this might make them be Tempted to have Sex.

In This Kingdom Partners Try to communicate & Reach out to who they are in a relationship with. They care about each other’s Welfare Even though they are busy, they always create time to show their Partner how important they are to them. Cause communication is a Key to a Fruitful Relationship.
In This Kingdom, Partners Keep each other on their toes when it comes to Godly matters. They Learn The Word of God together ( it can be Online), Ask each other Questions and make sure each other’s Spiritual life is always in Alignment. When anyone learns something New, they share the Idea … They Frequently ask each other what God is doing per time and season. this is to make them spiritually Sensitive.Once in a while they Pray together.

In this Kingdom Partners don’t Ever start living together as HUSBAND and WIFE till the Wedding Night. Not even after the Engagement. They make Sure they Honour God and Each other. if you’re living with someone that is yet to Marry you, you’re wrong and God is not happy with you. You need to leave now!

In This Kingdom Relationships, the Partners Respect Each other. Even if a Problem transpires between them, they don’t immediately go around spreading it to others. Whoever is at Fault tries to be Humble and bold enough to Apologise, and they make up as soon as possible. They don’t give the Devil A room to Come between them.

In This Kingdom, Each Partner has Who they Submit to. (Spiritual Fathers) It’s very necessary. Never be in a relationship with any one mostly a man that doesn’t Submit to anybody. They will hardly respect you.
In Kingdom Relationships, The Goal is Marriage and not a Cure to loneliness. We don’t Date to Mingle with someone or Someone we can share Emotions with but our main goal is Marriage. Never be in a Relationship with an Opposite Sex When you know you are not ready for marriage in the NEXT (2) TWO YEARS. Marriage must be in view.

Relationships are to know if you can get along with a Person. It’s a period friendship is built and compatibility is accessed. If you know from the beginning you don’t have any Intention of Spending the rest of your life with this person just don’t bother Entering into a relationship with them. It’s wrong to do that as a Kingdom Person.
It’s good to Marry Your Friend. Someone you can Play with. Someone that won’t Easily get fed up of you. Someone that can tolerate your weaknesses and Celebrate your Strength. Someone that will still Cherish you at old age. Someone that Will never be ashamed of you or humiliate you in public.

Please if you’re in a relationship that you’re being abused Already, Please no matter how long you have been together you need to leave Sis/Bro. Forever is too long to start Suffering now, don’t ever have the mindset that your partner would change. Who they are now is who they would become in Marriage. A broken Relationship is better than a Divorce.

Take note, there’s nothing bad in having an Opposite Sex as a friend as long as You will treat each other as Brothers and Sisters. But please and please do not be Carried Away. You need to set boundaries you must never Compromise. Don’t communicate frequently cause that’s how Emotions begins to develop. I actually have Male friends, They are Like my Kingdom Brothers. We Discuss Godly Things together and learn from each other. Our Focus is God and how to help our generation.

We Write messages to post together and Grow in knowledge together.
In Conclusion it pays to Wait. It pays not to Defile that Bed. If you Defile the bed what will you enjoy during your Honeymoon? Remember this is definitely something you will get tired of someday.
One day I bet you, you will beg your Partner that it shouldn’t be Today. That you’re Weak. That’s the Truth.
So Why not Hold on, So That When the Right time comes you will be Happy you honoured God and your partner. Use your Dating period to know God more and Talk about how your marriage life Would be. How many Children you would give birth to and how the finances would be raised and everything you intend to do in your Marriage Relationship.

Allison Hyacintho and His girlfriend dated For 5 GOOD YEARS WITHOUT HAVING ANY FORM OF SEXUAL IMMORALITY NOR EVEN KISSING. Today they are happily married. That dating period will definitely Strengthen their marriage. They will really respect and honour each other in marriage. So you can do it when you Allow the Holy Spirit to empower you.

There’s Another thing we do that I don’t think is right. I used to be guilty of that Too when I was in a relationship. It’s very Wrong to consistently post your Partner’s Pictures on social media when you’re not yet married. Please it’s your Relationship, Keep it to yourself now till when it’s right to make it public. Maybe during your Courtship or if you want to show us your Pre-wedding photos.

The Reason is because you might not get married. Anything might come up. And again the World is filled with wicked people. No be everybody like your progress .
Another thing is this. To avoid Heart break, It’s always advisable before your Relationship goes far, try to do A Genotype Test. Know if Genetically you’re compatible. For the sake of your unborn Children. Don’t say God will take control… It’s very risky. That’s why before the Relationship goes far you need to know your Genotype Status.

And if you’re not ready for marriage, it pays to use this time to know God more, Come out of that Relationship that has been taking you far from God and that doesn’t have any Direction. Stop allowing a Boy take advantage of you, you’re Unique, you’re a Chosen Generation and a Royal Priesthood . build your Relationship with God. Develop yourself more. Enjoy your Single life but in a Godly way.

Discover your Purpose and be Fulfilling it. In the Process, That Person That Will help you to become The better you will cross your path.
Know this, That there’s no One Person meant for you… There has always been a believe that there’s always ONE PERSON in LIFE THAT’S THE WILL OF GOD FOR US. It has been proven wrong. The Truth is that When you’re someone that loves God and Fulfilling Purpose,
When the right time comes for marriage, you will see so Many Potential Husbands/wives.

You will be the one to Choose the one suitable for you according to those Standards God has laid down for his Children and Another thing that would guide your selection is Your Purpose. The person must have a Similar kingdom Purpose with you. Not necessarily the same but same direction.
And You will be the One to Do the Finding Young Man. The Bible says “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

Proverbs:18:22″ But God’s Spirit will lead you during your findings. A treasure is not easily seen. You need to be careful to select the genuine cause there are a lot of Counterfeits. And when you find that good one, that’s when you have obtained Favour from God.
Please Be mindful of Dreams, most of you dream and see yourself getting married to a particular person and you conclude they are your future Partner. Have it in mind that the Devil can also Use dreams to Manipulate you. Be Very Discerning.

It Really pays to Honour God, It Pays to Be Pure, It Pays To Wait. In all let’s stand for Purity. Not just in deeds but in Words and thoughts too.
Thanks

Prayer:Lord, Help Us To Honour you in our relationships. Give us the grace to wait and help us make the Right decisions. If who we are currently dating is not meant for us, please help us to break up and give us the Strength to bear the Pains. In Jesus name. Amen.

Salvation Prayer: Lord Jesus, I believe you died and Resurrected for my Sins. I believe you’re the Son of God. I have really Sinned against you. Please Forgive me for the things I have done in the past and come into my life. Come and purify me. Be my Lord and Personal saviour in Jesus name. Amen.
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