Apostle Joshua Selman
Apostle Joshua Selman

Lift your hands to Jesus. Wave it to Him as a sign that you believe, that you have a life that is invisible. Give Him the praise!
Good Evening Everybody. I want us to thank the Lord in one minute. Find a way to say thank You as best as you know to. Thank Him for His marvelous hand in our midst. Thank Him for the manifold manifestations of His grace. Nicodemus came by night and said, “Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these things except God be with him.”
Father, we give You thanks. Marvelous God, we thank You for Your wonder working power across the nations of the earth. From continent to continent, You have proven again that You are God.
While I just came in and I sat down there, I just saw a vision. In this vision I saw a family weeping. I don’t know what for and I saw this in my vision and I just thought that when I come up, I will just speak a word of encouragement. Church Gist. I don’t know what family may be here, it may be our global family. But God will make a way where there seems to be no way.
Let me speak to that family; there are times when you may not see the wind. There are times when you may not see the rain. Yet, by an act that only God can define and describe, the valley shall still be filled with water.
Listen, we are people who understand the principles of the Kingdom and I’m committed to teaching us the principles of the Kingdom but the presence of God can never be exalted above principles because there are times you will do everything right and it just will not work. At that point, you do not need formulas, you need Jesus. It takes the know-how to be able to go and fish. It takes having a good net to catch fish, it takes a functional boat to catch fish. But there are times you can have the knowledge, there are times you can have a good boat. Church Gist. There are times your net can be good, there are times you can even be on sea and you will still not catch fish. At that point, you need to leave the idea of being a fisherman. You don’t need fishing at that point, you need Jesus. He is the only One who can make a sea that has no fish at the instance of His word. We must never exalt principles above and beyond His presence. He is still the Monarch of the universe.
In God’s economy, one plus one should be two. But there are times where one plus one plus God equals whatever answer He puts there. Whereas, ordinarily one plus one should be two. When God wants to change the equation, He adds Himself; one plus one plus God. Three men in the fire plus one looking like the Son of God and these were men that the fire had no power over. So there is no reason to come to church and feel downcast and feel discouraged. Now, it may not be for everybody but just allow me a minute or two to just bring that word. If God showed me that vision, it means that there might be someone who came to church and you have just come and say, “Lord, I love You and I will not stop loving You. But can You at least show me a token of Your mercy. Let me know that these things work”.
The Bible calls Him our ever-present Help in time of need. Find strength in the name of Jesus! The God of Heaven is still alive, let it be so for you in the name of Jesus!
God bless you again. It is good to see everyone, please be seated.
It’s always a delight to be in the presence of God. In His presence, the Bible declares; there is fullness of joy and at His right hand, pleasures forevermore. Just two, three functions very quickly and then we will get to the ministry of the Word. I welcome everyone very specially in the name of Jesus who is the Son of the living God. Church Gist. Thank you so much for coming. The Lord honour you. We have a very wonderful woman of God in our midst, amazing to see her. Ladies and gentlemen, please help me to welcome Chioma Jesus. Blessings to you, we love you. Thank you so much. An amazing woman of God who has been a blessing to everyone.
Let me start by appreciating our medical team. As you know, yesterday they had some time visiting the IDP Camp at Apo with quite a lot of people and I was very humbled and touched when I saw the photos and it is a test run to our humanitarian services that we will be doing. Church Gist. Remember that we are light and salt and then, it was a very humbling experience. We had the privilege to dig and to build a very quality bore hole for them, medical attention, food and shared the love of Jesus with them. That for me, I was very encouraged. So medical people, thank you so much. May the Lord bless you in the name of Jesus Christ.
The Lord will grant us grace to do more for His Kingdom in Jesus name.
It will not tire me to reiterate the scripture, Jeremiah 3:15, “that I will give you pastors or shepherds that are according to my heart and they will feed you with knowledge and understanding”. So, primarily the assignment of every man and woman of God as far as building the believers is concerned, is to feed them with knowledge and understanding.
God has helped us; week in, week out. We have considered a number of areas, touching across several areas of Kingdom lives, to the end that we may be grounded in the knowledge of God and then be established in truth. Church Gist. Let me encourage us before we deal with tonight’s topic; you must be very intentional about ensuring that the truths that are communicated do not just fall on deaf ears.
For a long time, we’ve had people in the Body of Christ who are not ignorant but they still lack results because the discipline to take that which they have learnt under God and to engage it appropriately to produce results for them, most people don’t have that staying power. So, you must be very committed to you growth, you have a responsibility under God to see to it that as the Word of God comes, your heart becomes like the good soil that is able to produce thirtyfold, sixtyfold and hundredfold. Church Gist. The good soil represents those who heard the Word and understood it. It is dangerous to continue listening to truth after truth, reciting them, supposedly you are aware of them and then your life does not capture results. Eventually, your Christian experience will be full of frustration.
So, make up your mind that every time you approach God to learn, you are learning so that you will have understanding and then, you’ll obtain grace from God. That is why at the end of every discussion, every communication of truth, the Lord grants us grace to be able to pray. That prayer is obtaining grace from the Lord.
Tonight, I’m teaching on a topic titled:
I want to show you by the Word of God tonight, the power, the price and the necessity of having strategic relationships and associations.
Proverbs 13:20
We are discussing relationship as one of the mysteries that are made for the rising and excelling of believers in this Kingdom. As you all know, we rise in this Kingdom on the strength of the mystery of the truth that we have found and know. Church Gist. When we apply these truths, they are called the mysteries of the Kingdom. They sustain the ability to lift us beyond our current level and bring us to a point where our lives can become true reflection of the glory and the grace of God.

Definitions of Relationship:

Relationships are advantageous connections, that are mutually beneficial to all the parties involved. That means when you say you are in a relationship of any sort, it means that there is a connection between you and those persons that is advantageous and that it must or should be mutually beneficial to all the parties involved.

The easiest way to succeed in life is through relationships. When the Lord brought us to this City, I saw this in the most explicit and most truthful way that can ever be seen that the easiest way to succeed in life is through relationships.

Everything in life multiplies on the basis of relationship. This means multiplication is only made possible because of relationship. It is your relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ through the experience of new birth that has made you today a recipient of eternal life.

Relationships are currencies. This means that, they can purchase things, they can purchase people and they can purchase conditions into our lives.
Genesis 12:1-3, Genesis 13:1-6
God called Abraham in Chapter 12; Lot went with him. The result is, everything God did to Abraham, you know the difference because one person decided that he will be blessed if not by divine ordination, then he will be blessed by association.
Jonah 1:1-15
If you can be blessed by association, then it also means you can also be cursed by association.
Mark 4:37, Matthew 4:18-20, Acts 4:10-13
Associations and relationships matter, as far as our growth and our excelling in life is concerned. Most people have been very careless about associations and relationships and sadly to their peril and to their detriment; I hope that by this teaching, God will wake us up again to see that among the factors that needs to be in place in my life and your life, for us to truly be able to rise to our full prophetic potential in Christ is the ability to understand the implication of associations and relationships.
Understanding the Biblical principles of relationships is the key to being truly blessed by association. Church Gist. That means if you desire to be blessed by association, then you have to submit yourself to understand the Biblical keys that make for sustainable relationships (Amos 3:3, Proverbs 18:24).
Friendships and Relationships are a harvest. If you do not sow that seed of friendliness, you cannot have that harvest. Many people desire to have profitable associations and relationships that make for their excelling and advancement, but I think largely, believers have not been taught the Kingdom principles that make for relationships. Church Gist. There are business people today who have no business being wealthy and blessed except that they were wise and foolish enough to follow wise people and by their followership, they entered a haven whose impact for them will be transgenerational. There are many people whose lives were correct until they met certain people and certain relationships. Relationships matter; your eternal destiny can be determined purely based on relationships. That because of how powerful relationships are, a man can literally spend the remaining part of his life in hell or in Heaven, simply because of relationships.
I’ve had the honour and the privilege by reason of the work God has committed to my hands to talk with very successful people, extremely successful people and I am amazed, every time I talk with them, the major part of their discussions is centered around relationships, more than ideas. In my presence, you will see them interrupt our conversation, making all kinds of calls and laughing and sometimes, in the middle of something serious, they take their discussions very serious. Church Gist. Now, I’m wondering; if these people placed that much value on relationships, could there be something that we do not know? Because there are many believers, the only relationship you have is God. That is wonderful as far as your spiritual growth is concerned, but you are learning here now that when it has to do with living in the cosmos, you are going to suffer as if it is not God, you gave your life to. That’s why God is teaching us these things to help us.
There are many people today who are in positions, where based on the opportunities that God brought to their lives, they should never be in that state; financially, spiritually, in influence and so on and so forth. Many of us have loved ones around us and we have people around who continue to live mediocre defeated lives in the presence of many people who can provide leverage for them. They have not been taught the excellency of relationships. Woe betides a man who is left alone to sought your destiny out without anyone to come and assist you. There are many people today, if they do not pay the school fees of their children by themselves, there is nobody to help them. If they do not take the journey by themselves, there is nobody to help them. Relationships are powerful. Church Gist. My life today, by the privilege of God’s grace is a product of relationships. I have learnt the power, value and the excellency of relationships. For many of you, this is the answer to your prayer. You have depended on your skills, degree, whatever it is and neglected man and those beliefs that, “all I have is God and my wisdom, I will find my way through life”. Except that you find out that you get to a point where you are pegged at a level and you may never be able to make constructive progress.
I know people who may never really have anything to present except that the one thing they have is that they have mastered relationships. Relationship can be a stream of income. You literally can live on relationships. Relationships are powerful, they are people today who have earned a life time income simply because of those connected to them. Do you know that if by tomorrow morning, you suddenly appear a millionaire; verify, people will never say what do you do? They will say, “where do you go to?” This one is not what you did, this one is you must have met someone. There are results that they are not about what you did, it was about someone that you must have met. When Solomon had that encounter with God in the night, he woke up by the very next day and there was such display of profound wisdom, his fame went about as proof that he was no longer alone.
There are principles that we must know and engage. If relationships are this powerful and if they hold the key to our rising and excelling, I said this that when the Lord moved me to this City, I was surprised to see the model of growth and excellency in this City, that when you find individuals grow and excel, it is without exaggeration; 70 per cent relationships more than even competence. In this Kingdom, who hates you does not matter but who likes you matters. Church Gist. Unbelievers across the globe understand this; they know the power of relationships. You see them investing in relationships with the determination of who you can almost call a fool and sometimes you are tempted to say, what is this level of investment and sacrifice? Except that when you begin to see the value that comes from that sacrifice. It is believers and church people that are largely careless over relationships just because we have God, the Holy Spirit and the Word of God; we have consistently displayed nonchalant attitudes especially towards profitable relationships.I pray that tonight, it will change in the name of Jesus Christ.
There are great preachers today who based on the investment of the spirit upon their lives, they should not be at the level they are now. I’ve had the honour and privilege of meeting a few people and I am amazed at how gifted these people are across boards whether in fashion, politics, comedians etc and you are wondering; how could someone be this gifted and remain at this level? I tell you; they have not found the power and the excellency of being connected and blessed by association. I have seen people who have spent time with God in prayer and fasting to access certain levels of graces and then, others who came by sincere followership, entered into that dimension of grace cheaply. An example; Elijah and Elisha. Elisha was not supposed to be a prophet. There was no prophecy about him being a prophet. Elisha was a farmer, probably trying to take care of his family. But he made up his mind that, “I may not know my way around my life and destiny but this one thing I will do, I have found a man who seem to know what he is doing and I will follow foolishly”. The sons of the prophet were just there receiving lectures and arguing who will be the next prophet and this one followed sincerely. I cannot begin to tell you testimonies after testimonies of seasons that opened in my life spiritually and other wise, all because of relationships. Very profitable relationships.

There are three kinds of relationships and associations:

General Relationships. Every day you meet with people, every day you get to the bus station, office, bank, restaurant etc. You interact with people in the market place and the Bible demands that you honour all men. There are general relationships. You can meet someone for the first time in the market and within five minutes, you gist and laugh as though you were born from the same place and after saying bye, you may never see the person again.

Seasonal Relationships. These are relationships that are so ordained for seasons and the key to maximizing these relationships is to position yourself through discernment, to know what to receive within the time allotted. For instance, there are some of us that God on account of His desire to lift you, He will carry you and keep you in the house of an uncle or an aunty, put you under the care of someone to train you. You will not be there forever, but that relationship was for a season. Church Gist. Because in His mind, He saw that that is the only atmosphere where you learn character, discipline and diligence. You can spend your six years there complaining and say my uncle is a wicked man, rather than discerning that time is ticking, I should learn quickly what I need to learn. The man you call a wicked man, has never begged for bread. He is still with his wife, prays in the morning and night. These are the things you should be learning. God took you from wherever, oh Moses and kept you in Pharaoh’s house to learn something that you will need later on.
Many of you have aborted seasons of greatness in your life because you did not discern relationships that came in certain seasons; politically, ministerially and so on and so forth. Rather than discerning to say, why did God bring this person? Some of you, God gave you jobs not because of the salary, there was something and someone you need to meet there and you have a-three-year span to learn it. You spend two years complaining and right now, you have about three months left. You need grace to catch up quickly. There are certain people God took to serve (NYSC) in regions they do not want, He kept them there to connect them to certain people, so they could learn certain things. Every time you are in an uncomfortable environment, know that God allow you there to see something. It is a stretching to build you.
Many of us have had to recycle seasons in our lives because we could not discern seasons. There is no great man I know who will be honest with you about the story of their lives and you cannot capture in that story, times when there were kept in seemly uncomfortable positions. Seasonal relationships are largely the kind of relationships that God uses to prepare us for destiny.

Destiny Relationships. These are relationships that do not die because there is prophecy on them. These are people who are part of the overall equation of what God is doing in your life.
All of these relationships happen to us every day and we must have the discernment to know; who is in my destiny and sent by God, beyond my current level. If you do not know this; many people especially those who are not Christians, they know the value of what I am telling you, they will go out of their ways to consult with diviners, “help me check, who are these people who should be in my life?” There are people who there is no reason why they should be in your life now and God will still say, “keep them”. Because their relevance is not yet now. If you have the discernment to be patient, the next twenty years of your life can be secured.
Your ‘God bless you’ of yesterday, your helping someone lift a Bible yesterday can be equivalent to the job of your five children. You may not know. There are people today, the only bad thing that will happen to them in their lives is hell fire but as far as this earth is concerned, they will never suffer on earth again because they have stretched like an octopus. Church Gist. They have mastered relationships and put together systems and structures that immune them from failure. Perhaps, the only place they missed is, not acknowledging the Lordship of Jesus but as far as the earth is concerned, they have sorted their destinies. Every time they make calls, there are memories of their investment in the lives of too many people for them to be ignored. Like Gideon, they will make one call and 32,000 people will come and say, “we remembered in 1971, you treated us well. What do you want?”
There are cleaners today who have become billionaires because they honour their way through cleaning into wisdom that blessed them and those who were raised in the same house, who trivialize the opportunity, do not learn anything. There are men of God today, who when they started ministry, they didn’t even know they will be men of God. Church Gist. They started as secretaries, cleaners and every time, they will go and watch the man of God pray, three hours because you are the one who cleans the room, you have that access to see his personal life. “Wow, so this is how this man prays?” You will now go and start doing you own prayer too and one day, fire falls on your head. From a cleaner to an apostle. Many of us today, God gave us a chance for beautiful and a great destiny. We lost it out of lack of discernment. But thank God you are in church.
There are people today who in their old age, they may not even have any responsible children but they will never beg for bread, because in their youthful days, they were mothers to too many people for them to beg for bread. The ones taking care of them today are not even their biological children but because of someone who stayed in their house and mama treated that person as though he/she was their own child, the child vowed that one day, you will laugh because of me. Church Gist. Ten years later, he comes with a car and house and people say this is too much. “No! If she could see that glory in me ten years ago, then I will invest in her life for the remaining part of my life.” Relationships are powerful, they are advantageous connections.


Avoid competitive jealousy (Proverbs 14:30). It is a weakness in all men. Competitive jealousy has nothing to do with being bad or good. It is a limitation in men. The moment we feel incapacitated based on an obvious reference, the temptation is there. It’s something you must be intentional about. You think because you have the Holy Ghost or the Word…, automatically, everyone will at one point or the other be tempted on this wise.
Proverbs 27:4
Can I tell you this? Except you’ve not been alive for a while, you must have come across this as a temptation and the Lord is granting you the grace now to build through the immunity of the Word, you must enter into a covenant that when God brings you to people and association that are for your destiny, you must make up your mind that you will fight with the determination of a warrior, to make sure that you run away from competitive jealousy.
We live in a world of social media and statistics where it is easy for people to compare and contrast whether as a man of God or businessman, we live in a celebrity world where there is an obsession to show that you are the one doing this or that. You have to be very careful. Church Gist. Thank God for westernization but we must be very careful because it is turning human beings to become something else. There is dignity in your uniqueness. You must appreciate who and what God has made out of you. Our parameter for success especially in our world today has to be re-edited from the lens of God’s Word. So that we do not put the pressure that begins to fabricate competitive jealousy.
When God hides you, it is proof that you are extremely special to Him. One of the ways that God shows how special a person or a thing is that, He hides the thing. Look at the formation of a human body, the part that are more precious, that are really responsible for you being alive and healthy are hidden. Church Gist. Success has an implication on those who are on the on-lookers because the moment you are commanding result of any sort, generally, your result kills the excuses of people who have used excuses to justify mediocrity and that can lead to jealousy.
Avoid competitive jealousy. What makes you avoid competitive jealousy is the knowledge that you are a unique expression of God’s glory.

Avoid ill or evil speaking and that extends to things like; backbiting, gossip and so on and so forth. (Titus 3:2, Proverbs 6:16-19). God gave you the gift of words and mind for edification and lifting, not for tearing down others. One of the way we make decisions is to understand the consequences that are on the other side of the decisions before we make them.
The difference between a meaningful discussion and backbiting or evil speaking is motive. You will eventually have to talk about people and things, but the difference is motive. When you discussion is to create an occasion to tear people down, it is called evil speaking. Church Gist. We must obtain grace tonight in the name of Jesus Christ to be able to rise beyond the grip of these kind of things. One of the blessings of being purposeful is focus. That when you are purposeful, your purpose occupies you so much, you hardly have extra time for frivolities and the things that made for base living.

Avoid offence.
Offence is the ease with which you get irritated, agitated, angry and resentful. I believe this was one of the things that brought John the Baptist down because John spent his time and had a wonderful track record but when he was now done, he himself said, “I must decrease that Jesus will increase.” Excellent! John would have finished strong and we’ll except that when he went, he was idle and he was no longer shining. An offence came in and he went about, discussing another man’s business and they jailed him, about to kill him and now, he said, “Go and tell Him (Jesus), are you the Messiah or should we expect another?” That is not a statement deserving an answer, it is proof that offence had come in.
4). Practice forgiveness (Ephesians 4:32). Anybody who tells you forgiveness is easy is lying. Anybody who tells you forgiveness is easy has not been offended. There are people who are too innocent to understand this teaching this night. They’ve been shielded by so many people. Church Gist. Forgiveness is a kind of giving. When you forgive, you don’t help the one you are forgiving, you help yourself. Bitterness and offence, is like piercing yourself with a knife and holding it there. It is like drinking poison and expecting another person to die.
Luke 6:37
The people who have it hardest to forgive are the ones who are in greater need of forgiveness. You will never be able to excel, having profitable relationships and associations or live with anybody, any organization, any friend at all if you do not practice forgiveness.
If you don’t practice saying, “I am sorry”, you will never be able to excel in this life. “I am sorry” does not kill, it simply means, I am better today than I was yesterday. There are people who have lost jobs today, simply because they could not say “I am sorry.” There are people who have lost profitable relationships because they could not say, “I am sorry”. Church Gist. Let me teach you something; do not allow your spiritual growth to make for an occasion where you cannot say, “I am sorry”. There are parents that need to say “I am sorry” to their children. Don’t be ashamed. It does not stop you from being a father or a mother.
Some of you are even offended with God now, “God, I don’t know how you want us to pray again?” One day, I wish you could read some of the text messages people send to me. Since they cannot see God, you are who said you are representing Him, they carry that aggression and land it on you. Church Gist. Our world interprets a life of aggression as masculinity. When you are cool headed and you are temperate, the world looks at you as a weak person. They like people who are aggressive. In this Kingdom, learn from Jesus. There are times when you are strongest, when you look weakest and when you are strong and you can bring your strength under control, you are strong indeed.
When you have the power to do so much and you can restrain yourself, you deserve an applause by the whole world indeed for dexterity and excellent of your maturity. God had the power to call 10, 000 angles and yet, He was led like a sheep to the slaughter. This was the Lion of the tribe of Judah, the Root of David looking so weak. Let me tell you this; fear weak people. It was weakness that killed strength on the cross. When you see people look weak or act weak towards you, it is not that they are incapacitated, it is that they are working based on a higher level of light and intelligence. Church Gist. As for me, I have made up my mind to live a peaceful life. A peaceful life is a goal that you can set and live a peaceful life within the time that you have, serving the purposes of the Kingdom. My proposal to you is that, you rise to a higher realm of living. There is a superior realm of living, above and beyond the grips of this kind mediocre living. There is living with excellence.

You must have a high degree of tolerance (Colossians 3:12). Tolerance is similar to forgiveness, except that tolerance means you are prepared now to have that offence happen again. The difference between forgiveness and tolerance is that, forgiveness is making accommodation for weakness. Tolerance means, you factor in that limitation and live with it because it will happen again and again.
There are people who you need to go beyond forgiving them, they will not change. Create a system of tolerance. Disappointment only comes when there are expectations. When there are no expectations, there is no disappointment. Some of the people that God is going to use to bless and lift you, let me tell you; for a major part of your relationship with them, you will feel like killing them and killing yourself. Church Gist. You will need to be tolerant until the day the grace that was on them for you comes to fruition. It was Dr Murdock that said, adaptation is proof of honour. You have to learn to adapt. The man who God has sent to help you and give you money to start out life, he is an angry man. Don’t forgive him, tolerate him. Endure as a faithful soldier.
You must be able to tolerate and forbear people. There are people who have been so broken and wounded in relationships, the moment they see anybody coming close, that fear comes. Give accommodation for people’s pain. Don’t just generalize and conclude. Just because people do not tell you their stories does not mean they do not have stories. I remember a man of God who wanted to invite me some years ago and he kept asking questions, “who is this, where is he coming from?” The people who were trying to encourage him to invite me, at a point they got fed up. They said, “what kind of man is this?” When the person reached me in anger, “Can you imagine, we wanted to give this man the privilege of having you and he was asking all kinds of senseless questions?” I said, “No! You may not know who had climbed his pulpit and caused a lot of pain to his membership. You may not know who has climbed his pulpit and used one hour to create something that took five years to correct. Allow the man to vets me.”

You have to become an active contributor to the growth of that relationship. You want to maintain relationships that count? You must be an active contributor to the growth of that relationships.
Parasitic relationships are self-centered and dangerous relationships. Unfortunately, our world is full of this kind of parasitic relationships, where the contribution is one sided. Do not be in a relationship where you are only receiving. It is a terrible thing for people to know you as a self-centered person. Church Gist. It is an ugly way to live. Nature teaches us that it is good giving and receiving that balances life. That why it pleases the Father so much when we love Him and worship Him because of who He is, not because of what we get.
I pray and I told God something and it is still my confession today, that I have never sought His face because of tea and bread. It is not fame or anointing or power that brought me to ministry. I came because I truly love Him and for the rest of my life, for as long as I have breath living in me, money, fame or reputation will never be motivations for my serving the Lord. I am amazed to see the things that drive people into ministry today. Church Gist. There are many people who seek Him simply because they said you will not fail when you seek Him. That’s an investment. I love Him with my life. It is an honour to serve His Majesty. You must change your perspective. It is powerful when you find selfless people who love you and love what you are doing just like that.
Be a selfless person. Life is a beautiful when you a giver. There is a law that when you give, it comes to you. But focus on the giving. It is more blessed to give, not just money. It is my prayer for everyone here that every relationship that you have now in your life and every association, you become an intentional contributor. You’ve heard me say that my greatest desire aside being a minister of the Gospel is that, by the grace and the mercy of God, that I can be a shoulder for someone to lean on. We don’t have all these lives, that if somebody is crying, let my hands at least be able to wipe the tears. Let me challenge you; do not allow this week from today till next Sunday happen without you doing something active and quality in the life of someone, especially someone undeserving.

Practice genuine love (Proverbs 10:12, John 13:35, 1 John 4:20). Your love life is the clearest Biblical index to measure your maturity. More than tongues, Rhema, Greek and Hebrew words – Love. When you love people who do not deserve to be loved, that is true love.
One of the secrets that I learned about walking in the anointing is that if you want to see the power of God manifest in such marvelous dimensions in your life, then you must be one who walks in genuine love, not selective love. Church Gist. Medical doctors are here, they will tell you that living in anger, bitterness, jealousy, all these things I have mentioned, they don’t just have spiritual side effects, they have medical side effects. You can literally dry up your bones. There are many sicknesses today that were not originally caused by demons, demons only found a door and cashed in on it to bring many people down to their knees and sadly many to the grave.
Association demands that you rid yourself off jealousy. It demands forbearance, forgiveness, you become an active contributor. Show me any man or woman by God who walks in keeping with these principles and remains alone or remain small and mediocre. No! It is a key to an excelling life and destiny. There are things about men you need to understand:
a). All men are men, no matter how great or anointed, the best of any and every man is still a man. So, there should be no surprises.
b). As flawed as men are, God still hid His treasures in them. The secret of working with men was found in the riddle of Samson; out of something strong, came something sweet. Samson passed to go and see a particular woman and he killed a lion and after seven days, the bees, they do not find a fresh green tree to put honey, they went and put honey inside the carcass. If you want the honey, you must be willing to endure the smell of that carcass. In the midst of the smell of that carcass, there is still honey in it. Out of that angry man, still there is an anointing that can lift you. Out of that self-centered relative, who does not care about you, one day his influence is able to open a door for you.


Lord, give me the stamina and the discernment to endure relationships until that which was supposed to come out from them to me comes.

Father, in this season, bring to my life the strategic people You have ordained for the next level of my destiny and grant me the grace to maintain those relationships until they bless me.

Cut away from my life oh God relationships that are will only end up destroying me, relationships that are not profitable as far as my next level of my Kingdom agenda is concerned.
…and God called Abraham and Lot went with him. It is time for you to follow and follow sincerely and it is time for you to be followed to a safe haven. People should not follow you to doom and you should not follow men to destruction. Followership leads to glory and honour, not destruction. Church Gist. Pay attention to your association. There is no such thing as we have been together since birth. Throw away all those sentiments and be very unashamed. Let me give you an honest assignment:
a). Go and write the list of the top five people in your life who are the greatest contributors to your growth, your loving Jesus and excelling in life. Invest in those relationships.
I have taught it here; you cannot generalize relationships and treat everybody the same. Not everybody thinks you are a big deal. There are people today, Joshua Selman to them looks like one of the men of God. There are others, he is our relatives somewhere. There are others who believe that Joshua Selman is a gift from God to them. I will be stupid to treat all these groups of people the same way. I love everybody but I will not invest the same level of energy and passion into it. When you find people who make you a big deal under God, be unashamed to invest your time, energy and resources. There are people who are very casual in your life, construct your emotional energy. Don’t just throw your strength to anybody and be disappointed. If you don’t invest into any relationship, don’t expect returns. Don’t barge into people’s lives and expect that they give you the same place they are giving everyone.

Father in the name of Jesus Christ, I decree and declare; if there is any relationship that through carelessness or lack of discernment, you have lost today that is costing you so much, may God show you mercy and bring you restoration!

I pray for you that, all the principles that you need to engage to maintain quality and profitable relationships; relationships with your superiors, contemporaries and your subordinate. I declare the grace to work in keeping with these principles, may you receive that grace now in Jesus’ name!

I pray for you; the persons, groups and associations that God has mandated Himself, to be part of your life for your rising and lifting, in the name of Jesus, you will not miss out on them in this season!

Everything that makes for offence, bitterness, jealousy and unforgiveness, I declare that it leaves your life right now!

The endurance, adaptability, stamina, maturity and the sense of forbearance that you need to maintain these prophetic relationships so that they can deliver to you that which God has put in them, I release that grace upon you in Jesus name!

Those of you who currently have a relationship mandated by God and it is yet to deliver to you the prophetic benefits that should come from that relationship, I decree and declare; beginning from this week, begin to reap the benefits that come with that relationship in the name of Jesus Christ!

Whoever has forgotten you that should remember you, for the sake of the name of the Lord in this season, I call upon the God of my covenant and I declare that this week will not pass until they call you in the name of Jesus Christ!

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