A guy and a lady were in courtship and the lady asked him ,bro why do you want to marry me? Out of all the ladies in your network, why me?
The guy said ” I want to marry you for the sake of my Ministry.I see that you are a ministry material. (He saw that the lady could sing.)
That Courtship went through a turbulent time ,why? the guy was so engrossed with ministry and forgot about their union.. He had forgotten, that the ministry and the man are different.
He never cared about the lady’s emotions all he cared about was his calling and ministry.
He never had it in mind that he is a “man” before “of God.”
I read this also in one of Pst Kingsley Okonkwo’s book.
“I once heard that a pastor’s wife; a senior pastor’s wife came to the church with her luggage and her two children and stayed on the altar.
When asked what the issue was, she said, “I want to marry this man preaching.” Of course people were amazed because the man preaching was already her husband and she his wife. She said, “No. The man preaching here is very nice. The one at home is very wicked. This is the one I like and I want to marry him.” It might sound funny but it’s true!
A husband was asked in a couples program one day why did you marry your wife ? and he said because she is financialy empowered.
To cut the long story short.When the wife became financially dis-empowerd the Marriage collapse
Some of you ladies in the house, you are running after that guy because you like the kind of ministry he is doing;( youth ministry,Singing ministry, abi because he is a preacher. Ask yourself ,is it the ministry you like or the man of the ministry?
This is a take home for you. The ministry and the man are different. The man on the pulpit is different from the man at home. When he is on the pulpit he is a Man of God .When he is at home ,he is a lover and a husband. So you must strike the balance.
Warrior Queens and kings , One big question you must ask during your Courtship is Bro why Me? Sis why me ?Why do you want to marry
You need to know why you are marrying him or why he is marrying you, so you could know the things to boost and things you need to work on.
Listen, you will be surprised to know many and different reasons guys and lady marry ,some for the sake of money ,some sake of beauty ,some shape and breast . Some out of sexual urge. Some because of age. All these are ephemeral things and can fade away.
If these are reasons why you go into marriage ,that marriage will not last and could crash .
So it is important that you know WHY.
If you find out that the reasons are not sustainable, and you still decide to carry on with him/her you are already setting yourself up for failure.
It must be about your qualities, and values that you stand for ,it must be that you are going the same way and heading the same direction .Not just because you are gifted or talented in certain things or are beautiful. It must be about your character because that is what will sustain you in the long run.
You can say this prayer loud and clear.
LORD PLEASE CHOOSE FOR ME