After work the following day, I went to Moses’ residence. Being the only child, he stays with his parent but we are working on getting our apartment soon.
Getting to the Ocha’s apartment, I met his parent and the cold attitude they gave to me made me feel uncomfortable. Like, this was couples that loved me so much and were eager to see me get married to their only child and give them grandchildren.
I asked moses and I was told to go to his room. Getting to his room, I met him busy with his laptop.
Me: good evening sweetheart
Moses: yea, good evening
Me: Sweetheart, what is wrong? Your cold attitude is scaring me, did I do anything wrong?
Moses: (stretch a paper to me) go through this and give me the needed explanation
Me: (collected the paper and read through) Wow! Virginity test??? Like, you conducted a virginity test on me without my knowledge? Have I given you reasons to doubt my chaste status??
Moses: well, I had to do because of the news I received. Why not read to the end
Me: news?? What news??
Moses: just read through, please
I took a deep breath and managed to read to the end. I got to a particular paragraph that says ‘the above patient is no longer a virgin’.
Me: and you believed this?? But Moses, you need to believe me, I have not engaged in any sexual activity not even when life challenges wanted to pull me down
Moses: and you expect me to believe that crap??
Me: Okay, what do you want me to do for you to believe me? Let’s go to another hospital because I don’t believe this result
Moses: well, the only way to make me believe is for me to confirm myself
Me: confirm how?? I don’t understand
Moses: you are not a kid. Okay, let me enlighten you. For me to believe you, let’s have sex
Me: Holy Christ! Are you not a child of God?? Don’t you know God’s stand on premarital sex? Yes, we may be in a tight situation now but having sex isn’t the solution. Fine! Why not ask the Holy Spirit
Moses: all you are saying is rubbish to me.
Mrs. Ocha: (walked in and join the conversation) and what is there if he sleeps with you to confirm if you are a virgin or not? Moses, can you see now, it is obvious she is not a virgin and she is now looking for a good man to get married to. Only God knows the number of abortion she has committed I
Mrs. Ocha: I am not your mother, I can’t give birth to a wayward girl. You were sent to school to study, instead of facing your studies, you were busy chasing men. The only way to get married to my son is by allowing him to sleep with you if you can’t do that then be ready to walk out of this relationship
Me: Moses, is that your conclusion??
Moses: I am sorry but that’s my conclusion
Me: (wipe the tears that fell from my eyes and left the room) Alright
I was able to hold back the tears till I get to my car. Getting to the car, I let the tears flow. Can’t they just believe that I am a virgin?? After keeping my Virginity for almost twenty-six years, is this what I get?.
How I got home that day was a mystery to me because I was disorganized all through the drive home. Luckily for me, I met no one at home so I went straight into my room to cry my eyes out.
Moses was my first love, he was the one that taught me what love is all about. Now, he is still the same person who taught what heartbreak is all about. That night, I wept sore, I thought about the shame of a broken engagement, the shame it will bring to the Pastor and his family.
That night was a tough and long one for me as a voice was screaming that there is nothing bad in sleeping with my fiance since our wedding ceremony is in a month’s time. Another voice reminded me of God’s commandment and the consequences of disobeying Him. The second voice reminded me of the covenant I made with God years back.
Few years after meeting Christ, I made a covenant with God that no man will see my nakedness save the man who I get married to then, I asked for grace to stay true to that covenant and He helped me.
How I scaled through that night was a miracle. I couldn’t go to work the following day as I wasn’t organized. To make matter worst, Moses parent had called the Pastor to let him know that they can’t go ahead with the wedding.
The pastor invited me into his room to hear my side of the story. The pastor wife who never liked me because she felt I came to share her daughter’s love spoke harshly to me.
Pastor: (disappointed) So, Deacon Ocha son is requesting that you commit fornication right?
Me: yes sir and I can’t do that
Pastor wife: (with a raised voice) and why can’t you do it to prove your innocence. I know you can’t do it because you have messed up yourself with countless number of men. I don’t blame Moses at all because he is simply watching out for his future. Sweetheart, better wake up and see the shame she will bring to us if this wedding doesn’t hold again
Pastor: mummy, what do you want me to do now?
Pastor wife: the hospital result shows that she is no longer a virgin as she portray herself to be and if this gets to the ears of the Church, It will be disastrous. It is better she leaves our house before the matter get out of hand. God knows that we have done our best for her
Pastor: but why did you defile yourself? Does that mean that what we were told about you was true?? Funbi, I am not happy with you, in fact, I am disappointed. Go to your room, I will get back to you.
Getting to my room, it was like petrol was added to fire. I started crying again but who is the person spreading bad news about me? What is my offence? What have I done to deserve this inhumane treatment? Have I not suffered enough? When I thought things were getting rosy, things became tougher.
I took my purse and board a bike to Moses office. I needed him to break up with me face to face. Getting to his office, his secretary hailed me then ushered me in to his office. Moses was so surprised to see me.
Me: hi, I won’t take much of your time. I just want to clarify something
Moses: (scratch his head) okay, I am listening
Me: it’s over right??
Moses: I am sorry but yes. You could have avert this break up by doing the needful
Me: (with tears flowing from my eyes, I screamed at him) just shut up, thank you for wasting three years of my life. I leave you all for God to judge
I gave him a disdain look and walked out of his office. I took another bike home to go nurse my official heartbreak. That day, I wished I had a family. I guess this is the diary of an orphan.
To be continued
I feel for Funbi